Traits of a Good DominantĀ 

A good Dominant cares about His sub. He shows He cares by being there for her when she needs Him. 

A good Dom will listen when she wants to communicate. 

A good Dom will be patient with her when she needs it. 

A good Dom will be consistent with His rules and punishments 

A good Dom will show His support when she’s upset. 

A good Dom will love her and stand by her when she needs Him most
These are just a few traits I feel a good Dom should have. It’s not about spending money on your sub or buying gifts. It’s about spending time with Your sub and letting her know she means something to You. Let her know how much You appreciate her service. Sometimes she just needs to hear it. 

  

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I’m Back

I feel as though I had an epiphany. I haven’t written in a long time. I find writing difficult especially when I’m in a rut and feeling depressed. 
Since the las time I wrote there have been so many changes. Sir and I moved to a small town out of the city. I found a new job and it was a little difficult adjusting. 

Sir started going out more often and I got scared. But than today, I started writing and it kinda sounded pathetic. (It’s amazing what writing out your feelings can do). Sir works His ass off supporting our family and taking care of us. I shouldn’t feel sad that He wants to go out and have fun and do his own thing. 

I realized that Sir spends a lot of time with me. We don’t always do something exciting, but every night we do have our time cuddling with my head in His lap while He strokes my hair. 

I’m not going to take our time for granted. I am truly happy with the time I spend with Sir and I am going to be happy for Him when He tells me He has plans. šŸ™‚ It doesn’t mean He loves me any less or He’s trying to get away from me. Everyone needs some time to themselves and to be themselves. 

 Sir has taught me so much. I am a better person and a better slave for that. I am going to continue to serve and do my chores for Sir because it makes Him happy and that is what I am meant to do. šŸ™‚
  

Feeling DiscouragedĀ 

I had a horrible sleep last night. I tossed and turned, was hot then cold and I think I may have gotten an hour sleep altogether. 

I will be the first to admit it, I am evil when I don’t get enough sleep. I started cleaning this morning and I feel like it is a never ending job. I just wish the place would stay clean for a day. 

 What I need is a good spanking session and whipped back into my positive state. Sometimes that’s all that’s needed. Please spank me Sir. 

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 3

I missed two days of writing due to long hours at work and falling asleep early. I have this weekend off, and finally have time to write. 

I’ve decided to write about a day in my life as a service slave.

I wake up every morning at 6:15 to make Sir’s coffee before He wakes up. After I’ve woken Him up, I make His lunch and get Him ready for work. 

If I work evening shift, I go rest for an hour before I start my chores. I vacumn, do any dishes that need to be done and clean the house. If I have time, I do my aerobics before work. I love cleaning and making the home organized for Sir so when He gets home from work, His mind is calm and relaxed. 

I am lucky that Sir is a terrific cook and He does most of the cooking In the house. I do help out with any preparations that need to be done. 

At night after work, or after I’ve done the dishes, I serve Sir His coffee and I get to rest my head on His lap. We like to spend the evenings watching a good movie. That’s my favourite part of my day.  

Sir is not very strict. As long as my chores are done in a timely manner, I get to do what I like. As much as I LOVE my daily chores and routine, I’m hoping to receive more protocols in the future. Sometimes I find it hard to stay in a slave mindset when Sir lets me do my own thing. 

My dream is one day I will have to ask permission to do absolutely everything. I crave for Him to have complete control over me and all my actions. I just have to be patient. 

I hope everyone is having an awesome weekend.  Good Night. 

30 Days of Kink: Day 2

How do you handle disappointing or failing a task given by your Master?

I have a tendency to stay quiet and withdrawn. I am extremely hard on myself when I know I have disappointed Sir. Being withdrawn ends up making it worse because I don’t communicate and that makes Sir even more upset. 

I haven’t disobeyed Sir for a long time. Seeing the disappointment in His face is punishment enough. I have learned to obey and complete my tasks as best I can. Seeing Sir happy and content is my motivation for completing my tasks in a timely manner. 

Sir has never given me a task that He knows I wouldn’t be able to do. I will always give 100 percent in whatever Sir asks of me.  I Love You Sir. 

30 Days of Kink: Day 1

I have been slacking on the writing. Between work, kids and cleaning, I haven’t had much time to write. I am going to start my own 30 days of Kink and try my best to stick to it. 

Are you a sub, slave, babygirl, or pet? What made you decide to enter this lifestyle? 

I am a service slave to Sir. We have been in a M/s relationship for a year and a half now. I am responsible for cleaning the house, serving Sir and making His life as comfortable as I can. 

I asked Sir to be my Master after a year and a half of being together. When we first met, I hadn’t heard of BDSM before or what an M/s relationship entailed. I just knew that I liked to please and serve Him. I didn’t realize there was a name for it. 

When Sir told me He wanted to see other women and is polyamorous, I started reading up on different lifestyles. That’s when I realized, I have had submissive tendencies since we met and I wanted to be His slave. 

I submit out of the love and respect I have for Sir. When I asked Sir to be my Master, I honestly didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I didn’t realize the amount of work and commitment it took. 

It has been a year and a half now and we are closer then ever. I have learned my place as a service slave and don’t question anything anymore. I have given up all my rights and Sir makes all the decisions. 

He has full control over my mind, body and soul. I have learned to let go completely and trust that He knows what’s best for me. My main focus is to listen and obey and make sure His every need is fulfilled.  


 

Life is sweet!!Ā 

I have been a good girl for Sir since we got back from vacation.

I haven’t needed His reminders to do my chores, and I have been asking permission to do everything. I am absolutely over the top happy. 
We have come a long way since we entered this lifestyle. At first I wanted everything right away. Strict rules, punishment and protocols. I realize now that Sir was right. It does take time. 

I’ve also learned that I don’t have to ask for more rules. I just started asking Sir permission to do my everyday activities. Such as sitting on the couch, having a shower, going to bed. Now it is just habit and I don’t think twice before asking. 

When I’m cleaning, serving, or pleasing Sir, my mind stays calm and I have no worries. The only focus I have is making Sir happy and that makes me happy. We are closer then ever and I couldn’t be happier.

Now it’s time to spend quality time with Sir. Good night!